12 Ways To Keep Your Husband Happy
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It comes natural to most females to have that mother instinct, that certain feeling that when something is wrong with your children you know it. Well you must use this same instinct with your mate.
You can read his body language, listen to his words and read between the lines when needed. Look into his eyes, watch his facial expressions. Just make sure you always notice if his habits are changing. Keep in tune with his needs and wants.
Be aware if he is not talking as much? Is he coming home later than usual? Is he drinking or smoking more? Is he avoiding answering his cell phone when he sees your number?
Well maybe it's time to put a little fire back into the romance and keep it there, to keep your husband Happy, before someone eles does.
Do What Comes Natural
1- Give him a good morning kiss or hug when he wakes up.
If you wake up beside him in the bed, snuggle next to him and put your head on his chest, and put his arm around you. He'll love that feeling of protecting you with his strong arm holding you close.
2- Listen to his same old stories and jokes again and again.
Sure you've heard them a million times, and sometimes you roll your eyes to the top of your head or mimic every word waiting for the end of an outcome you know too well. But just think back to when you first started dating or just got married and he told these funny or interesting little anecdotes.
Think about your smiles and your laughter you gave him then, come on you remember, come on, now bring those feelings to the present moment when he's on stage again. Enjoy the moment, and be the positive audience he wants and needs you to be. This will keep your husband happy.
3- Give him a shoulder massage when he comes home from work.
If you are there when he arrives, take his brief case or bag and set it down. Immediately start massaging his shoulders while he is standing. Lead him over to a chair and sit him down, while you continue to relax him. You don't have to be an expert masseuse.
This will help to ease the tension of a hard days work. As you are massaging him ask him how was his day. And really listen as he tells you. If you feel your massaging skills are a little rusty, no problem, just Google "massage techniques" for some ideas.
Sports Sports Sports
4- Buy him 2 tickets to his favorite Sports game.
What's his favorite sport? Every man seems to be interested in one sport or another. Does he like golf, baseball, basketball, football, hockey, soccor, rugby, drag racing... Whatever sport turns him on, treat him and his best buddy to tickets to an upcoming event. His buddy can be you or one of your children, or grand-dad or whomever he chooses.
If buying 2 tickets to his favorite sport is not in the budget, never fear, here is what you can do. Order a sports event on cable. This will be less expensive than the actual tickets, and your cable company will bill you later on your momthly bill.
No cable. No problem. Schedule some alone time for him to watch his favotite event on TV. Have some beer in the fridge or whatever his drink is. Have his favorite snacks on the table, and his favorite dinner ready for him, on a plate in the fridge as well. Tell him about the food, so he can pop it in the oven during half time.
Leave the house, take the kids and any other relatives and pets. Monitor the game from your car radio so you will know when to arrive back home. Go shopping, visiting, to a park, etc., enjoy your time away as well.
Give him at least 45 mins to an hour after the game is over before you return. This will give him time to savor the good feelings he has about enjoying his favorite sport. Plus it will give him a little time to himself, and a chance to start missing you as well. Doing this for him once in a while will definetly keep your husband happy.
Sweets For Your Sweets
5- Put his favorite candy on his pillow.
Once you or him have made the bed (just like they do at the hotels).leave him a treat. If you don't know what his favorite candy is that's ok for now. But he is your husband and this is something you must find out and add to your memory bank. Just notice what gum he always chews or what mint he likes and put one or two of these on or under his pillow now and then.
6- Bake him a birthday cake.
Hey, it's his birthday. Don't order a cake from the bakery. Simply find an easy cake recipe on Google, and bake the cake yourself. If you feel you don't have the time to do this or just dont want do. It's still easy. Go to any grocery store: Buy 1 box of Betty Crocker, Pillsbury or other cake mix. Follow the easy baking instructions on the package, Add icing to the finished cake and put your special message on the icing using a different color icing or a tube of icing (which is easy to write with).The tube of icing is easily found in the cake mix isle at almost any grocery store. He'll love that you took the time out to bake it yourself.
7- Help him watch his diet. Don't have too many sweets and fattening foods around the house. Always fix his favorite foods using low salt, low fat, low cholesteral, low calorie and low sugar whenever possible. Become an expert nutritionist for yourself, your husband and your other family members and friends.
Dont Take His Feelings For Granted
8- Don't ever disrespect him in front of his friends.
This is a definite NO NO. No matter what the disagreement or situation, wait until you both get alone to iron out the problem. This cannot be stressed enough. A man's male ego is a super powerful source of strength. If you knock his ego down in front of his friends or relatives. You may crush him so bad that it will be very hard for him to forgive you. He may want to forget about the incident but his friends may remind him, or just being around them can be a constant reminder of how you dissed him in their eyesight.
9- Don't bring the car back with the gas tank on almost empty.
If you use his car or the two of you share the car don't always let him be the one to fill up the gas tank. When possible get a fill up once in a while. If your money will not allow a fill up, at the very least put back the gas in the tank on the same gallon mark it was on when you started your errands .example: 1/4 tank, 1/2 tank, 3/4 tank etc.. You may not be able to do this everytime, but when you do he will appreciate it very much.
10- Don't talk while he's watching his favorite TV show.
If he initiates the conversation, be breif with your comments or answers to his questions. Don't add conversation about the kids and school problems, leaky faucet troubles, bill problems, etc. Treat his TV time just like you would if you were at the movie theatre, and quietly respect the relaxing and enjoyable atmosphere.
LOVE Is In The Air
11-Tell him you Love him.
It doesn't hurt to hear the words once in a while. When was the last time you told him? Just don't think that he is suppose to know you love him since you're still with him after all these years. Actually say the words "I Love You" to him daily or a few times a week. Watch the difference it makes in his love expressions to you.
12- Let Him Be The Man He Was Meant To Be.
Let him take care of you physically, financially, and gallantly. This will keep your husband happy. Chivalry is alive and well.
There is a little bit of John Wayne in Every man!
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It's not true that food is the way to a man's heart!
Sorry, but it's a fact.
My wife cooks really great meals, but I couldn't care less!
What I want from her is affection, intimacy, friendship and communication. We're not close at all, and I'm thinking to leave this marriage after tolerating her ways for 8 years! I've begged, pleaded and asked her many many times to be the person she was when we met. Her response is simply: I'm making too much fuss. But I don't think sleeping in my own bed in my own room is a fuss...I think it's absurd!!
Thanks for all your comments.
It's nice to get a man's point of view on the subject. Thanks Melaman.
i dont know if we can make it....... itrst him i love him....but he is so far so unconnected imiss him ... he is busy in his work i only hav 10 to 20 min to communicate...,.. plz help me out
gogo, i appreciate your words...there are a lot of suggestions i can share with you... but only you and he know all the small and large details that causes your relationship troubles...if 10 or 20 minutes is all you have, then i would suggest you make the most of that time doing what he and you like best, remembering a little compromise is o.k....and soon you should see that 10 or 20 minutes become even longer... here a site one of my readers suggested http://www.marriage-counselors.net/ Lots of luck
I can say that cooking is also a way to make your hubby to fell that you really care about him. But there are few wives who didnt know to cook initially, but still they are leading a happy life with the husband. Few man likes you to be the way you are and few want you to change according to their taste, YOu need to understand how your person adn act accordingly.
Thanks so much Bigo for your comment. You are truly right!
Good ways fer sure. I would add making love. I have been divorced 2x and both times that played a major role in the divorce.
Thanks createmyeconomy for your suggestion. It is good to have a man's point of view.
really true thing and will help people to come out of problems.... thanks for ur points...
thax i think this will be of great help. thank you.mrs Tumuhimbise.
Thanks shreya and he calls me beauty for your comments
i luv my husband very much but all b com useless
I Luv my man alot and he also Luvs me,but sometimes he makes empty promises,he had never taken me out for a romantic dinner,He loves sex alot and everytime we have it he enjoys it and keeps on begging for more
Thanks Lisa and deeppriya, We all deserve true happiness. I trust you will take steps to add the happiness you deserve to your life.
Saying "I love you" before leaving for work or after your phone conversation can be a habit. Try it. It works. I love my husband so much. I know his happy with me,we can sense it.
Im, thank you for your advice. I know many readers will find it truly helpful. "I love you" are such powerful words.
one thing for sure is not to try and change your man, ive tried it and he just got worse. i made peace with who he is and left him to do his own things his own ways, and i promise he got better, now im in love all over again, wow the man i met just came back
Hi I am married with my husband for over 12 yeaes and have kids. sometime ago, he left me and my kids for other girl he said he loves. We already had kids that time and tried to fight our marriage and my kids but no use. We parted ways for almost a year and he came back coz he missed our kids and for that he wanted us to be together. I love him though and wanted to fix our marriage and whatever was my shortcoming was, I wanted to make them up to him and also give them a second chance. during those times, he still have communication to the girl coz they had a child. I accepted it. Now, I am not sure if he is starting to do the same again. What I know that he's been lying to me several times. In my mind, I just want to end our marriage but what about our kids?
Thanks his angel, for your advice. Your're certainly right let him be his own self and don't try to change him.
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Thanks hope, so much hope for sharing. I wish you luck with your situation. Sometimes when things get very complicated as you express maybe you need to seek professional counseling. I dare not make a decision for you for there are always two sides to every story.Good Luck!
hope, marriage is hard, i have been married for 14, but just recently i have been taking care of him like men want to be taken care of.. do not give up, talk to him, dont pressure him. love him and little by little reel him back to your family.. once again marriage is tough. it is worth it fo all of you. read books. that helps me too.
toughwoman, you've got the right name. Hang on in there. Many great blessings of health, wealth, happiness and long life to you and yours.
I am in a live in relation for more than two years and everyday i learn a lot of how not to piss him off.....
i read your article and many points are true in my case....
eg...he wants me to say a sweet good mornin with a smile everyday or he gets mood out...
he wants me to listen to every stupid joke of his eventhough it is boring.....but when i listen as if there is nothing in the world i want to do but hear him talk, the results are amazing....i get showered with lots of affection....
and he does not like it when his self esteem gets damaged by some small word in my conversation with him....
and one thing i learnt the hard way is that sit with him and watch his fave TV show and enjoi it (or pretend).....the closeness that comes later feels good.....
but i had to endure a great deal of fights to reach this small understanding
but in all i found that reading articles and books about men and how to lead a happy loving and peaceful life with them, helps a lot lot lot.......
this article is one such pearl i got in the net
thank u!!!
Thanks KK,
So glad you enjoyed our hub. It takes time and patience when you're working on a good piece of art. Keep up the good work.
Thanks for the tips few things i do for my hub but few things i have got better to understand after reading i am married for 8 years and still enjoying my married life as i am newly married. my hubby always praise my cooking.
Hi sweety, Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you have a great relationship with your husband, that's wonderful. I wish you both a very Happy New Year and continued marital happiness.
some tips r usefull but i xpected xperts to give better tips
Thanks for the tips. Nice hub.
Thanks for the tips. Nice hub.
jessica, I'm glad some tips were helpful to you. I'm certainly no expert just a woman who has years of experience of keeping her man happy. Good luck in your relationship.
Hi HartMurengu, Thanks for visiting. I'm so glad you liked our hub.
my boyfriend actually seems to enjoy cooking for me more, I don't like cooking much because I don't like touching hot things! It's actually more suited to the toughness of a man isn't it?
Hi RachaelLefler, Thanks for your comment. I can see your point. Best of luck to you and yours.
Great hub, very informative...
Heremia, Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your positive comment!
hi der, thanx 4 ur article,m a counsellor n i have done everything prior reading ur article. my husband is C.I.D officer n his work is too confidential n time consuming. i try allot n m still trying to overlook his unaffectionate behaviour,its always me who is doing everything,from moral,physical,n financial matters. i dont even get a hug without asking. n its js 2 months 2 my wedding n derz no spark at all!!!
I love the advice u gave it does help I'm married with my hubby for 8 months I'm 21 and he is 21 but we didn't show each other that much love. I kiss him on the cheek everytime he's leaving for work and I give that shoulder massage everytime he comes back from work . Thanks a bunch
Thanks Sona, I'm glad you were able to see some positive results from adding just a couple of caring expressions to your love life. Great success, prosperity, joy and happiness to you and your husband.
I'm in a bind with my marriage...its not so much him but issues with myself! I love my husband so much...but I'm having trouble keeping the past in the past. He did something dumb but I stayed with him...I just have moments when I have flashbacks of what I walked in on...I want my marriage to work, we have been together for 7 yrs. now and i need advice on what to do to keep him happy and how to get myself to put this all in the past where it belongs1 It's killing me inside and I'm doing it to myself I think but I really need to get this resolved. I don't want something thats haunting ME from the past to kill our marriage!
hi i feel like my marrige is falling apart, i have a lifetime illness which means im in alot of pain alot, im trying 2 hard 2 tell him i love him on phone calls texts,before we go 2 sleep and even when we wake up, we seem 2 be growing further apart, we had an issue were i found out he had been texting another womean for 4 years, we have been 2gether 11 years and arried for 9 years, i love him so much but it seems im the only one trying to make it work, i asked him before if he still loved me as much as he didi before and he said he didnt know what to say, that was were the conversation ended, i try 2 buy him silly little gift's or cook him a nice meal, but no matter how hard i try he dosnt seem to notice, i need some advice dont know how else we will last, we also have 3 kids, but the biggest problem i belive is my illness, but he knew exactly what was wrong before he married me as ive suffered for 20 years, please hellllllpppppp please!!! x
Well, i don't know in which country these suggestiona may work but definitely not in France! I am an independent woman even though married. My husband gets a nice word if he deserves it and when I want to say it. I don't agree with an artificial nice word every morning in either side. Cooking. It is my husband who cooks. I just help around if not too tired after work and busy with our child. If one day my husband wants to leave, nothing will stop him and definitely I'll do nothing. That's why it is so important for woman to stay independant.
Voilà, just checked French websites in relation to this subject. Almost all of them says: be independent and care less about your husband ! Make him go crazy about you.
Thanks carefulone for sharing. I'm not a marriage counselor but I do believe they give great professinal advice. Try to contact one in your area to help resolve your issues. Best of Luck!
Thank You From France for taking the time to let us know how you treat your husband. I certainly agree a woman should be independent, her being so can strengthen the relationship with her husband. Yes the air of your independence does make most husbands wild and even want you more. Just as I suggest things for her to do for him these same rules apply for him to do things to keep her happy too! Thanks again for stopping by!
THANK U ......... for all your coments its quite interesting but my hubby eats sleeping pills and unwanted stuffs capsules and he fights everyday especially for sex this has become a daily routine like,,we both go for office and i will be tired very much as i do household chores as well....
i have found my answers here http://howtokeephusband.com/
hi, i got married 1 and half yrs back and stay in a joint family. his brother hav 2 kids. thr had been nthg between us for the 1st 1 yr as we wr nt aware of it. but all these 1 nd half yrs is nt at all good. he always prefer and enjoy with his mom and his brothers kids, he never take me out, wont get anythg unless i ask and nt spending time with me. i started asking him for all these but its makes him irritated and is staying away with me. i feel too bad and i cry for his affection ndlove, but he does'nt want me to cry too, he says its irritating him.
pls help me thr is nthg between us, my mother in law always pointing that am not conceived and wan me to go for test. my health is becoming worse without happiness, he scolds me always and make me cry for silly thing.
dont knw wat to do, i love him a lot. i want to be happy with him and have kids, i wan his love pls help me out pls
i love my wife so much thanks for advice it work for me a lot.
Hey i like the idea to keep the husband happy!!but my only concern is tht he likes to go out with his friends and not me and whe i tell him o take me out he gets angry...he can gie time to his dad but not me and if i tell him to have sex he say you do it or masterbate tht it and does not want to do any forepay...what do i do..pls help and tell me how i can make him happy..i m pure vegetarian person but still make non-veg for him what he likes...but he has never appreciate upfront about the food tht was made, i have to ask him always..pls help.
Hi swetha, Thanks for sharing such a personal matter.The only advice I can give you is to talk to a marriage counselor, or your church pastor for the best advice and help with your problems. Stay strong and stay positive. Each day always do a few things that make you happy so you can stay strong and happy with yourself. So much good luck and happiness I wish you!
Thanx for such a nice tips
Thanx to you Hina for checking us out. Have a great New Year!
Thanks a lot now i will this tips on him
it is a good thing to know how to do the right thing before doing any thing .......
Hi, Thanks so much for taking the time out to leave a comment. I'm so glad these tips will be of help to you!
hi good tips
annie, thanks for stopping by. glad you liked the info. it's never to late to wish you an awesome New Year!
i love my husband but i cant keep him happy because of my mother in law she always tries to make us fight n thts the reason v cant live happily together:(
I love my husband and he loves me more than I do. But the thing is he is working abroad and me staying in native country. I told several times to take me there. But thinking of financial tight, he is avoiding. I just want him to feel that he can't stay there without me.
Hi tania and fati, Sorry to hear about your relationship problems.Good luck and I hope everything turns out alright for the both of you!
My love is infact my best friend. I am sure that you all have thousands of things to say and claim.. In the end if your partner is not your best friend then you are forever doomed and lost?...
You live in a fantasy world man. Get f@#**g real.
Catgaze, I agree it is a wonderful thing if your partner is your best friend. But I personally disagree that one would be doomed or lost if he is not.
I fee like my husbands pulling away from me and i dont know why!!
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